Why Couples Struggle With Eroticism and Intimacy?

Why Couples Struggle With Eroticism and Intimacy?


Women and men are distinct. Men are quick to get stimulated and are relatively rapid to get into orgasm. This "spike" rises sharply and falls off in the same way. The males are more enthralled visually. Thus, looking at women, watching videos, reading magazines as well online pornography, plays more influence on the sexuality of males. Women, however, are aroused slowly and, once they have achieved orgasm, are more likely to remain on a high level of arousal, before fading off. They have very distinct biological patterns. It is no wonder that it can be an obstacle for couples to truly feel a sense of mutual happiness. The differences between couples should not be ignored, and they can be used in the process of making love.

Intimacy is the most important element of a healthy and happy relationship. One of the most significant repercussions of the hectic life of contemporary relationships is the loss of intimacy. Seeing it from a larger perspective to relationship to survive, it's too high a cost to bear.

What is the reason for the loss of intimacy?

The difficulty of blending eroticism with intimacy is a typical issue that can be caused by several different reasons. It could be due to the fact that you've stopped nurturing the creative sexual element of your relationship as you've got other priorities, (such as your work schedule, home life, kids, etc.). It could be that you've convinced yourself to believe that your "honeymoon stage" of your relationship is gone and will never be back, or at the same intensity. You're happy being friends and that hot sex was a thing of the past.

There are other reasons that could indicate that you're consciously or subconsciously afraid of being emotionally and/or sexually vulnerable. If you aren't aware of what it means to be sexually vulnerable or sexually erotic, and you aren't sure what your sexual needs or fantasies are, these thoughts could be frightening to you. It's your goal to please your partner and be loved by them, but you don't experience any sexual pleasure as much as you did earlier. You're not sure how to start intimate conversations about sexual intimacy in your relationship. You're not confident in yourself. You're stressed and overwhelmed in your daily life. It's also the case that you've had no experience of eroticism, or emotional intimacy with your partner and aren't sure what that might look like. Consult the best clinical psychologist online to identify the reasons for the lack of intimacy. Sometimes, psychologists refer to psychiatrists for medication, or sexologists and sex therapists.

How can you increase your relationship with your partner?

Sex isn't the only method of expressing the intimacy of a relationship. The physical and emotional connection must be in sync. The concept of emotional intimacy is to convey your affection to your partner. This could be a thoughtful look across the room, or the smile you give when you meet them at the end of your day. That bond of affection you share with each other is one very personal thing you have in common.

Physical intimacy, on the other hand, isn't just about sexual relations. It can also involve cuddling, kissing, hugging, and even holding hands. Every form of expression of affection is essential to strengthening your relationship.

  • Make sure you are healthy and love your body

Take a bath, get in shape, read a book, or whatever you feel is a source of energy and is enjoyable for yourself, for you. Take care of your body: confidence in your body confidence, a sense of self-confidence and a feeling of attractiveness are all factors that influence the sexual and sexual self. Develop a healthy and positive connection with your body to allow all other relationships to work in a way that is optimal.

  • Be clear about what constitutes "normal"

You and only your partner will determine what's normal in your sexual life. The basic formula for normal in the context of a sexual relationship is what you want, and what your partner would like/makes you both content, minus what isn't possible, which equals your usual. Accept your own individuality, desires, and desires and be open to enjoying yourself as well as exploring your partner(s) too.

  • Concentrate on pleasure sharing

Take your focus away from the large O (orgasm). If you're experiencing guilt, shame, or anxiety about having sex, that can be a trigger to feel a negative reaction to sexual intimacy. Eye contact when you are intimate can increase the emotional bond. Complete release and letting yourself be completely in the presence of another person is an experience unlike any other. Get rid of societal norms and let go and be completely in the present, the moment.

Every now and then try giving one another an erotic kiss, without touching each other's genitals. Try to be physically intimate but not sexual. It could be massaging each other, sitting on the lap, or anything through which you can touch each each-other body.

  • Take a look at your partner with the eyes of someone else

It is common for couples to lose sight of the many reasons why they fell for each other. If your partner has examined or you happen to observe them doing things they excel at, appreciate it. Talk about things they're enthusiastic about. Take a moment to think about what you see in them physically and emotionally from others' points of you. Appreciate and compliment the qualities you find within your partner.

It is a good idea to consult, a urologist or gynecologist to rule out any organic sexual dysfunctions, seeking psychotherapy and couples therapy would be of great help in identifying the challenges of intimacy.


  • Sex Therapy

Sex therapy is normally provided by psychologists, social workers, physicians, or licensed therapists who have specialized education and training in issues related to sexuality and relationships. Certified Sex Therapists have graduate degrees or diplomas, and have demonstrated their competence in sex therapy. We should not fall prey to quacks, or shams who provide very costly medicine secretively, but please ascertain credentials before taking any medication.

Get online mental health assistance

Being in a relationship with someone else may be difficult regardless of how much they are in love with each other. There will be instances when things don't go the way they were in the past. One way to solve problems is to go through couples therapy using an Online Counseling session. An Online Counselor can begin working with you to become more transparent and aware of your own fears, assumptions, and expectations for each other and of your spouse. You can consult the best clinical psychologist at Delhi NCRs at Psychowellness Center, Dwarka, Janakpuri, Gurugram, NOIDA, Pitampura, Vasant Vihar, Delhi   

Contributed by:- Dr (Prof) R K Suri & Mr. Utkarsh Yadav