Ways to Improve Self-Esteem

Ways to Improve Self-Esteem


Unfortunately, low self-esteem is a self-fulfilling prophecy. The less you like who you are as well as what you do, the less and less motivated you will be to do whatever it takes to improve your self-esteem. From there, it's easy to get into a loop of negative and cyclical thinking, trapping you in harmful—and incorrect—beliefs. TalktoAngel provides online counseling services for a variety of mental health issues, including self-esteem concerns. Their certified psychologists and therapists can help you work through negative thought patterns and emotions that may be affecting your self-esteem. During Online counseling sessions, you can learn strategies to build self-confidence, embrace your strengths, and overcome self-criticism.

How do you break the cycle and start going in a more positive direction?

It is a process that will take time, however, there are things that you can do to start and keep it going.  According to Dr (Prof) R K Suri, Psychologist, Life Coach, & Mentor TalktoAngel,  "Your value doesn't decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth." Here are 20 effective techniques to boost your self-esteem rapidly and start gaining confidence.

1. Learn a new skill.

You boost your sense of competency as you upgrade your skill set to something that relates to your strengths and interests.

2. Describe your achievements.

Consider what you've accomplished and write it down. Create a list of everything you're proud of and anything you've done well. When you require a reminder of your capacity to get things accomplished and do it effectively, refer back to your list.

3. Try something new.

Creative endeavors are a great way to reestablish fluidity in your life. Imagination stimulates the brain, thus the more you use it, the more benefits you will reap. Take out your old instrument, write a story or poetry, enroll in a dance class, or participate in a neighborhood theatrical play. It helps you a lot more when you add the pressure of trying something new.

4. Determine your core values.

Determine your values and review your life to determine where you are not living in accordance with your beliefs. Then make any required adjustments. The more you understand what you stand for, the more assured you will be.

5. Question your limiting beliefs.

Stop and confront yourself whenever you catch yourself thinking poorly about yourself. Don't allow erroneous notions to hold you back. To recognize your limiting beliefs and set them right, take the help of the best CBT practitioners.

6. Step outside of your personal bubble.

Push yourself beyond your comfort zone. Make yourself uncomfortable by doing something new, meeting new people, or approaching a subject in an unusual way. Confidence begins on the outskirts of your comfort zone.

7. Assist someone.

Make use of your talents, skills, and abilities to assist others. Help someone directly, give useful resources, or teach someone something they wish to learn. Give someone something you excel at as a present.

8. Make peace with your history.

Unresolved problems and drama might keep you stuck in a cycle of poor self-esteem. Seek the advice of a skilled counselor to help you heal the past and move forward with confidence and self-assurance.

9. Stop caring what others think.

When you are concerned about what others think of you, you are never free to be entirely yourself. Make a strong choice to stop worrying about what other individuals think and start making decisions based on what you want, not based on your perception of others’ expectations of you.

10. Read something motivating.

Reading something which cheers you up and causes you to feel good about yourself is a terrific approach to boosting your self-esteem.

11. Reclaim your honesty.

Determine what integrity means to you and live in accordance with that notion. If your life isn't in sync with your personality, it will exhaust you and make you feel horrible about yourself.

12. Let go of negative people.

If you have negative individuals around you who don't have anything positive to say, put you down, or take full advantage of you, do the wise thing and let them leave. The greatest method to rebuild your self-esteem is to be in the company of upbeat people who appreciate and admire you.

13. Make a mark in the sand.

Setting boundaries for yourself is the best way to discover your self-worth. Understand your boundaries and how you want to respond when others breach them. 

Don't let others dominate you, exploit you, or manipulate you. To be self-assured means to set solid boundaries.

14. Take pride in your looks.

Because once you look your best, you feel your best. Dress confidently and allow your self-assurance to shine through in your appearance.

15. Accept failure as a necessary part of the learning process.

When you fail, it's natural to be harsh with yourself. However, shifting your mindset to comprehend that failure is a chance to learn and that it is vital for learning and progress will help you maintain perspective. Keep in mind that failure shows that you must be making a conscious effort. You can also try acceptance and commitment therapy with the help of the best psychologists.

16. Always keep in mind that you are a student.

Consider yourself a perpetual learner. Approach whatever you do with the mindset of a student—what Zen Buddhists call Shushing, or "beginner's mind"—open, eager, unbiased, and eager to learn.

17. Face your apprehension.

Allow yourself to be terrified, but keep going. Self-esteem is frequently discovered in the dance of your deepest wishes and your greatest anxieties.

18. Volunteer to be a mentor.

Offer your assistance to someone who needs your advice, leadership, and support. Their regard and gratitude, as well as watching them improve with your assistance, will boost your self-esteem and self-respect.

19. Specify success.

Clarify your definition of success and how it affects your confidence. If you truly want to do something, you must locate the self-esteem within yourself to do it.

20. Consult a psychologist.

Last but not least is consulting a psychologist who is well-versed in the research-based and effective techniques for self-improvement, including but not limited to ACT, CBT, Client-Centered Therapy, and Narrative Therapy.

Contribution By- Dr.(Prof) R.K Suri, Psychologist & Life Coach  & Ms. Varshini Nayyar