Unfortunately, low self-esteem is a
self-fulfilling prophecy. The less you like who you are as well
as what you do, the less and less motivated you will be to do whatever it
takes to improve your self-esteem. From there, it’s easy to get into a loop of
negative and cyclical thinking, trapping you in harmful—and incorrect—beliefs. TalktoAngel provides
online counseling services for a variety of mental health issues, including
self-esteem concerns. Their certified
psychologists and therapists
can help you work through negative thought patterns and emotions that may be
affecting your self-esteem. During Online counseling
sessions, you can learn strategies to build self-confidence, embrace your
strengths, and overcome self-criticism.
How
do you break the cycle and start going in a more positive direction?
It is a process that will take time,
however, there are things that you can do to start and keep it going. According to Dr
(Prof) R K Suri, Psychologist, Life Coach, & Mentor TalktoAngel, “Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s
inability to see your worth.” Here
are 20 effective techniques to boost your self-esteem rapidly and start gaining
confidence.
1.
Learn a new skill.
You boost your sense of competency as you
upgrade your skill set to something that relates to your strengths and
interests.
2.
Describe your achievements.
Consider what you’ve accomplished and
write it down. Create a list of everything you’re proud of and anything you’ve
done well. When you require a reminder of your capacity to get things
accomplished and do it effectively, refer back to your list.
3.
Try something new.
Creative endeavors are a great way to
reestablish fluidity in your life. Imagination stimulates the brain, thus the
more you use it, the more benefits you will reap. Take out your old instrument,
write a story or poetry, enroll in a dance class, or participate in a
neighborhood theatrical play. It helps you a lot more when you add the pressure
of trying something new.
4.
Determine your core values.
Determine your values and review your life
to determine where you are not living in accordance with your beliefs. Then
make any required adjustments. The more you understand what you stand for, the
more assured you will be.
5.
Question your limiting beliefs.
Stop and confront yourself whenever you
catch yourself thinking poorly about yourself. Don’t allow erroneous notions to hold you back. To recognize your limiting beliefs and set them right, take the
help of the best CBT practitioners.
6.
Step outside of your personal bubble.
Push yourself beyond your comfort zone.
Make yourself uncomfortable by doing something new, meeting new people, or
approaching a subject in an unusual way. Confidence begins on the outskirts of
your comfort zone.
7.
Assist someone.
Make use of your talents, skills, and
abilities to assist others. Help someone directly, give useful resources, or
teach someone something they wish to learn. Give someone something you excel at
as a present.
8.
Make peace with your history.
Unresolved problems and drama might keep
you stuck in a cycle of poor self-esteem. Seek the advice of a skilled
counselor to help you heal the past and move forward with confidence and
self-assurance.
9.
Stop caring what others think.
When you are concerned about what others
think of you, you are never free to be entirely yourself. Make a strong choice
to stop worrying about what other individuals think and start making decisions
based on what you want, not based on your perception of others’
expectations of you.
10.
Read something motivating.
Reading something which cheers you up and
causes you to feel good about yourself is a terrific approach to boosting your
self-esteem.
11.
Reclaim your honesty.
Determine what integrity means to you and
live in accordance with that notion. If your life isn’t in sync with your
personality, it will exhaust you and make you feel horrible about yourself.
12.
Let go of negative people.
If you have negative individuals around
you who don’t have anything positive to say, put you down, or take full
advantage of you, do the wise thing and let them leave. The greatest method to
rebuild your self-esteem is to be in the company of upbeat people who
appreciate and admire you.
13. Make a mark in the sand.
Setting boundaries for yourself is the
best way to discover your self-worth. Understand your boundaries and how you want to respond when others breach them.
Don’t let others dominate you, exploit you, or manipulate you. To be self-assured means to set solid boundaries.
14. Take pride in your looks.
Because once you look your best, you feel
your best. Dress confidently and allow your self-assurance to shine through in your appearance.
15.
Accept failure as a necessary part of the learning process.
When you fail, it’s natural to be harsh
with yourself. However, shifting your mindset to comprehend that failure is a
chance to learn and that it is vital for learning and progress will help you
maintain perspective. Keep in mind that failure shows that you must be making a
conscious effort. You can also try acceptance and commitment therapy with the
help of the best psychologists.
16.
Always keep in mind that you are a student.
Consider yourself a perpetual learner.
Approach whatever you do with the mindset of a student—what Zen Buddhists call Shushing,
or “beginner’s mind”—open, eager, unbiased, and eager to learn.
17.
Face your apprehension.
Allow yourself to be terrified, but keep
going. Self-esteem is frequently discovered in the dance of your deepest wishes
and your greatest anxieties.
18.
Volunteer to be a mentor.
Offer your assistance to someone who needs
your advice, leadership, and support. Their regard and gratitude, as well as
watching them improve with your assistance, will boost your self-esteem and
self-respect.
19.
Specify success.
Clarify your definition of success
and how it affects your confidence. If you truly want to do something, you must
locate the self-esteem within yourself to do it.
20.
Consult a psychologist.
Last but not least is consulting a
psychologist who is well-versed in the research-based and effective techniques
for self-improvement, including but not limited to ACT, CBT, Client-Centered
Therapy, and Narrative Therapy.
Contribution
By- Dr.(Prof)
R.K Suri, Psychologist & Life Coach & Ms.
Varshini Nayyar